Memory of the first days in my life

I was born in one of the latest days in the year 1978. My first cry was spent in the maternity ward of one of the only four districts of Hanoi that day – Dong Da district.

The same with everyone, I cannot know anythings about the day by myself. However, I know some pieces of information relating to my early childhood through my mom’s memory that she recited when talking together with family members or relatives.

As her memory, on the afternoon of the day of having birth signal, my father took us to the Dong Da maternity ward by bike, the same with all of the labour class couples that day. The distance from our house – on the bank of To Lich river – to there – at the begin of Kham Thien street – is about 5 kilometres. Since I am the second child in our family and my elder brother was just one and a half year old that day, after taking us there, my father left my mom stayed there alone to went back home to looked after my brother. I still stayed inside my mother’s womb till just more than 5 a.m. next day.

My parents were not born and raised in Hanoi. My father’s hometown is in Thai Binh where paddle fields placed end to end endlessly. My mom’s hometown is near Huong pagoda in My Duc district of Ha Tay province, where limestone mountain chains placed along the roads and sparsely over the province. The same with many youngsters that day leaving hometowns to settle and get job in some provinces developing industrial factories, they went to Hanoi and joined a construction firm belonging to the industrial ministry. As all of other companies, that state firm not only provided them a stable job – they became state workers when joining the firm – but also shelter in its tenement. Working here, they met each other and got marriage. Their wedding was organized by the company’s labor union. After the wedding, the company gave them a cottage near the firm’s gate and on the To Lich river bank where my brother and I spent our earliest years living here.

That day, transportation was by far more difficult than now. My paternal Grandad had to commute by bike from Thai Binh through Nam Ha to Ha Tay, and to Hanoi for our parents’ wedding procedure. After the wedding, it was very rare to have relatives visiting and helping them due to the distances between places and even bicycles were very luxurious that very few of rural families could afford to have one. Therefore, the time of my birth also was the time my brother was sent to Thai Binh to live with our paternal Grandparents and some uncles and aunts. He lived separately with parents there for one years.

I do not have much of memory about the cottage I lived in the very first years of life. However, one picture of the yard of the house has stayed and appeared in my mind whenever thinking of the house. It was a plain soil yard with rough surface. The entrance was a short and gentle slope on the right side of the house since the land is a bit higher than the road. In the upper right corner of the yard, there was a big bombax flower tree (rice flower as we called) which blossoms big scarlet flowers in springs. In this season, the big scarlet flowers fell down and laid sparsely on the yard made it was as beautiful as a flower patterned garment. The picture of the house which stays in my mind is that is in a late afternoon, my father was sitting and repairing or making something in the yard and we were playing around.

Can university degrees assure getting jobs after graduation 


This year, two my cousins asked me for advice for retaking university entrance exam. One is going to graduate from college and one just finishes the first year. They suppose that they had mischosen subject which they are studying, and now want to redo the university learning process. They desire to get a university certificate to approach their desired career.

Linking their situations with experience of myself and others who I know, and also my knowledge, I support them to follow their passion. However, I also analyzed their prospects for restudying in universities, which force them to pay more thought and consideration for final decisions.


I just asked them some questions:

– Are you sure will get a job in the field after finishing the bachelor qualification of the subject?

– Do you think studying in universities is the unique way to get a job in the field?

– Is there anyone or do you have money that help you in recruitment in the future?

– Have you seen anyone who gets their good job without experiencing university courses?


And then they answered NO for all the questions except the fourth.


After that, I add more to my opinion that made them turn to confusion and thoughtful. That is:
I really support them to follow their passion, but they have to keep responsibility for their action by affording for it by themselves. It means they need to work to earn money or borrow it by themselves to afford tuition fee if they want to study again. Their family should not have to bear the burdens of their study more after caring their first choice.

That is what I talked to them for consultation for the matter. Since that they’ve never talked to me about this matter again. 

I think, they changed their intentions since visualizing how hard of earning money by themselves for studying and studying in universities in the same time is.


Not only these two cousins, one cousin of my wife changed his university course when he studying the third year in a university. He thought it will be hard for him to find a job after graduation from the first university. Now he is in the 5th year of the second course but regretting his changing decision. The reasons:

– It is still very hard for him to find a job after graduation from the second course. He supposes it may harder than previous subject.

– His friends graduated and had jobs to earn money already, but he still lives boringly in student life.


Another case is, one guy who is a closed-friend of my roommate in Saigon also shared the same thought when he was seeing his friends went to work while he was studying in the university. And now, as I know, he is still in unemployment after some years of graduation from the second course.


In the light of the mention above, I recognize some common reasons that make young people think of changing subjects in universities.

– Desire to get a job which requires professional training such as doctor, or getting positions in state owned organizations such as schools or some of the same.

– Desire of self-demonstration that they can do as well as other people who study in good universities which required high entrance exam scores.

– Lack of social knowledge so that they cannot find other ways to get a job except getting the bachelor degree.

– Fright of working. After experiencing internship periods and knowing hard scenarios of their major working lives, students may fear of work foreseeing difficulties that employees in probation periods have to face. Consequently, changing subject may help them avoid those difficulties by prolonging study period more. It is a good solution.

– A good excuse to avoid people recognize their weakness. Many students are very lazy, they spend much of time for playing or doing nothing. Their study just for passing exams. However, the life is not as easy as their supposition that bachelor cert can ensure for jobs. In fact, to get a job, students need to learn and practice many things besides of their subjects to compete one another in recruitment competition such as English, teamwork skill, and more of the same. Therefore, it is almost no hope for lazy students to get a good job after graduation without helping from authorities or money. As a consequence of seeing their grey scenarios, re-studying is a good excuse for them to hide weaknesses.


My point of view.

Nowadays, people do not have to possess professional certificates to get the desired jobs, except:

– Some really important and serious jobs for the society which require strict training such as doctor, lawyer.

– Jobs in state owned organizations.


Besides of mentions above, people can get other jobs without studying in universities by

– Taking training courses from experts or experienced people

– Self – studying and practicing


Although it is quite hard for people who do not have university certs in recruitment, many people, as I know, never care about certs if the candidates possess skillful abilities for the vacancies and always make effort to improve themselves. I am an example for this who worked a skilled job since the time I was studying in the university.



It is different from our parents’ era, recruitment and working have changed.

– Only state owned organizations or some important and serious jobs for the social as mentioned above are really require bachelor certificates. 

– Employers need skillful employees not the ones possess good profile.

– Self-study is a skill and ability that is really necessary for young generation now.

– Self-study is a skill and ability that is really necessary for the young generation now.

– People must not stop study at any time. Working environment also is a competition, ones will loose their jobs or higher position people’s reliance once other better ones appear.


The main roots of recidivism


This post is a practice of Ielts essay writing which I really like and think it is a very meaningful piece of writing since its practical aspect. Therefore, I think I should public it in my blog, that I hope it will benefit someone.


Many criminals reoffend after they have been punished.
Why do some people continue to commit crime after they have been punished, and what measures can be taken to tackle this problems?


Everyone desires to have a peaceful life with their family, however, many former inmates recidivate and relapse into the boring life requiring to struggle every moment to alive in prison. In this essay, I will identify reasons of reoffence and propose solutions for those.

First of all, the most prevalent difficulty for ex-prisoners reintegrate back into society is their jobs which are the most necessary living mean. Lacking social demanding jobs due to long imprisonment leads to ex-offenders’ unemployment which forces them to commit crimes again to get money for surviving. Secondly, a willingness of overcoming difficulties keeps a key role to determine if ex-prisoners re-break the law or not. After a period of staying behind the bars and with such the rapid change of our society, former inmates face many difficulties in their new lives such as finding jobs, how to make new good friends, and so on. Everything may easy and normal for us but not for them, which causes relapsing into criminal behavior of the ones who lack strong determination.

However, there are some solutions helping fresh releasing from the jail people integrate back into society, and as my supposition, the government keeps the key role of executing those. Firstly, instead of forcing prisoners to work hard to make money such as making bricks or exploiting stone, the government should train them skillful and their hometowns’ needed jobs such as construction, motorbike or car repair, haircut, and so on. Those are helpful for them to get a mean of living in our society. Secondly, not only working, in prisons, the government should run programs which encourage learning and improving human nature for prisoners. The programs may be setting up libraries, play performance, working and sporting competition. Those activities will help them widen knowledge, improve skills, love the life, and enforce their willingness to overcome difficulties which is the most important and essential merit when released.

In conclusion, don’t have practical jobs and fear of facing difficulties are the main problems that cause reoffence for inmates. Therefore, job training and difficulty struggling skill improvement programs are good solutions that need to apply for whom bearing detained punishments.

The birthday in 2016


How time flies! 38 springs passed rapidly, the face appears considerable wrinkles, the appearance has such ravages making difficulty in recognition, that many people said I must be in the forties.

There is one of my happiness in the past year, that I met many classmates studied in secondary school who I had not seen for the last 23 years. Moreover, there are some other friends and brothers who I used to have very close relationships and had not seen them until this year. This is such the year of reunions.

Beside of reunion pleasure, there are some great losses in the last year. Some beloved relatives will never be seen again due to the time rule. This is the year that I was most clearly aware of the rule and value of time. I recognize that lives run very quickly, so people never live urgently but should be “hurry up” as the respectful poet Xuân Diệu’s opinion – enjoy every single second of the life.

Last year, I approached knowledge of relinquishment, what are dispassionateness and contentment. I met someone that I had thought they only exist in Budha books that spending all their lives to do precious work freely for others, not the same many people just give for marketing and reputation enhancement purposes. I realized that I am dishonorable comparing with them, always calculating and scrambling for the better life.

Following with the struggle for better material life, I also experienced difficulties in doing extra work, in efforts of striving for money regardless of health and myself. I learned that the foremost matter which I need to care for is my health, not money.  The most important and invaluable things which I have are my life, my loved ones, the happiness of my family.

Lives are experiences, in the next year and also my future, I will try and experience more. However, not as same as before, all of them will be heading for personal improvement and sustainability of my family, balance life and contribution to the society.

The new year and spring are coming soon, accompany with this post is my thank to the people who have cared and supported me. Wish all of you have a year of good health, happiness, and prosperity!

Think about business and marketing

Character is the destiny of each individual
Culture is the destiny of each organization




On the working life, I never stop learning, learn positive aspects from others and also see bad aspects from others to avoid.

Cooperated with a courier partner for a period, experienced an extremely disappointed feeling of their service which startled and raised some questions about our service.

– How customers satisfy with our service?

– Besides, how much satisfaction that the customers get from our professional knowledge and other factors such as supportive material system, interaction, convenience, transparency, the credit of our words and announcements?

– And the same questions for other factors of our business.


How can we make the clients feel “ELATED” in using our products or services?

I think, in the present era of the fierce competed market, entrepreneurs are not only merely competing in prices, products’ quality, speed, and more of the same, but also by customer service. It means to give customers an experience of not only satisfaction but also having a great feeling to make them remember the brand name and also tell other about it. Thanks to making effort on this factor, Tony Hshieh has built Zappos become a global brand name which respected by entrepreneurs all over the world. That factor manifested in their core value number 1 which grasped by all the employees.

“Bring AMAZINGNESS to customers through customer service. It means giving customers a happy feeling with a great experience through customer service (sometimes exceeding their expectation, create an emotional connection, not relate to any programs of promotion or price deduction).

Don’t need to see out to the world, in our country, I see many good products with low price but low sale revenue. On the other hand, many other good or medium quality products can sell at high prices for the high-class consumer segment. Why? There are also contributed by Marketing, PR, and so forth. Nevertheless, I believe that the main reason of why those businesses can sell those products with high price is they run their customer service better than others, consequently, customers willing to pay money to be whole-hearted served (to get ELATED). Beside of serving well they also highly appreciated customers’ complaint which they never regard as a disturbance but, conversely, as the gifts helping them recognize their troubles for resolving and improving in order to serve the customers better “Complaint Is A Gift“.

Together with the negative experience and thought of others’ service, and the impressive lesson from successful man mentioned above, in the next period of time, we need to carefully consider our direction. We may become a tortoise who moves slowly but firmly, never accept becoming a rabbit who moves quickly but carelessly as in the story of Tortoise and Rabbit. We have to clearly identify our vision and core values to making our lodestar for business’ activities. Certainly our core values system may change with the time, however, the value that makes customers feel “ELATED” undoubtedly always be the foremost one that we have to maintain and improve.

This post written with a desire of making people who care and support us or our customers can understand our thought, our desire. It is “WE ARE TRYING EVERYDAY TO IMPROVE OUR SERVICE AND PRODUCTS BETTER DAY BY DAY”.

For me, this post also is a proclamation for myself, since I realize that I usually do better what I note down or tell others than just let it stays in my mind.

Accompany with this post is my wish to receive suggestions, contributed ideas, and even claims of all of you by comment below.

We thank and highly appreciate your support!

My view about courses of personal financial development and  skills improvements


Because of participation in some courses about how to improve skills, knowledge, and so on, together with discussing with students in the courses, I have learned somethings besides of the knowledge taught in the classes. For the reason that one friend recently sent me a course’s content and asked advice that should he take part in the class or not, I would share my practical knowledge and opinion about those learning programs to anyone reading this post.

Should people learn those kinds of courses? My answer is YES, but also NO 🙂 …!



– IT IS NEVER BE USELESS FOR LEARNING. No matter how much knowledge comprehended in the classes, our intelligence is improved. The information given there is what the lecturers had experienced, learned from books or other people. Without question, it will be useful no matter what situations.

– REALLY BENEFICIAL FOR IMMATURED PEOPLE. Besides the knowledge conveyed by lecturers, students also see and recognize tips and tricks of them and also learn from other older and more experienced classmates. Moreover, they can make more friends to exchange knowledge and experience, widen knowledge about the life, and others. I highly recommend young people who just get out of families’ protection and students to hunt and join those free courses (even though normally lecturers don’t target those people for their courses).

– FRIEND MAKING, NETWORKING. Every class has its classmates, most of them have the same interest, desires, knowledge, and want to get better as you. Is this really good to have such a helpful network like this!

– CREATE/GET MOTIVATION. Many lecturers apply NLP and some other skills of raising students’ emotion into the lectures. Therefore, they help students improve motivation, self-belief to set and pursue their objectives.

– RELAXATION, ENTERTAINMENT. In classes, nowadays, speakers often apply many energetic activities for all members doing together. Hence, students will have chances for dancing, raising hands to say “ME” forcefully, shouting, having pictures to up on facebook to show craziness or ego or relationship with some kind of people such as CEO or entrepreneur, and so on. Those activities help students feel relaxed and comfortable or more of the same when staying in the classes as well as show self-esteem with friend community in the virtual life.



– CLASS’ QUALITY MAY NOT AS GOOD AS IN ADVERTISEMENTS. These days, the demand for self-improvement, enrichment of Vietnamese people are very high, every family tries to have a trade, everybody struggles to sell something and more of the same (in my opinion, this demand is good). Grasping this high demand, many people enter into lecturer career. They open classes which have impressed keywords such as MILLIONAIRE, ENRICH, SUCCESS, FREEDOM, I just name a few. They advertise the courses by content with those keywords and also use words with emotional hypnotic manners which ignited rejoicements, exultation for many people. They believe that they have found a good teacher who can teach them to become rich after taking part in the courses and then, they REGISTER. Courses’ advertising contents often proclaim that you will get some things good like this or like that. However, when the courses finished, a speaker asserted 80-20 principle to confirm that not all students can succeed with his theories, they need to do this, do that, etceteras. I think students who learn to develop their personalities and enrichment must be the people who have strived will, desire of improving their business. Either they join the classes or not, surely, in 100 students will have some successful people and many failed ones in the future.

– NEGATIVE EFFECT FROM LECTURERS. In the eyes of many lecturers, only money exists in (maybe since they teach making money), and they may never care about their credit and business ethics. They always set targets for some amount of money for making effort in short and long terms and then struggle to reach them by every means. They also teach their students to do the same. In many courses, lying, over -exaggeration, and even selling low – quality products are common matters. Both lecturers and students only aim to GET MONEY and ignore other matters such as credits, business ethics, etcetera. Someone may not agree with me for this thought, however, with my living experience and reflection, getting money is not the matter of trying to get by any means. In many cases, the more people struggle to get money by every means regardless of other factors of life such as moral, health, and so on, the less money they get. Moreover, they may lose more money than they get in the future. For this matter, I will have a specific post about it later.

– LOOSING SOME AMOUNT OF MONEY VAINLY. Nowadays, many lecturers also are skillful sellers and marketers. In the classes, they also sell some things, introduce products and also take profits from more than one source. Using techniques, tricks, they introduce and sell many things more in the courses including other courses. The words often used are “love the students very much, all are for students’ success, and more of the same. But, essentially, they are striving to get as much money as possible from students. Illustration, in a course I took part in, the teacher consistently urged all the students to register for using a software with charging monthly service instead of a trial using in one month to know if it suitable or profitable then make decisions after that. The teacher said, “REGISTER IT, DON’T CARE OF THE VERY PIGLET” (which is the initial service fee). Yet, the lecturer was trying to get figure nails of many piglets which are the commission of students’ registration.

– THE COURSES MAY BE A TECHNIQUE TO LURE PEOPLE GATHER IN A PLACE FOR INTRODUCING SOMETHING FOR SALE. Many courses have very low tuition fee or even are free, and also have very attractive content in advertisements (those often be only 1 class in duration). However, essentially they just have poor content and mainly used for introducing and selling some things as real estates, software, services, or other courses, I just name a few. Paradoxically that as in my residential area that inhabitants often invited to gather in the community hall to receive gifts and then the organizers will introduce some things for sale. Nevertheless, many people pay money to gather in places for lecturers introduce things for sale. For example, a course which I took part in last year has about 5000 participators since it had an appearance of Robert Kiyosaki, but in fact, people went there just to see A FAIR OF ENRICHMENT COURSES (only introducing and selling courses), and Robert Kiyosaky’s appearance just last about 3 hours at the end of the 2 days course.

– LOSING BIG MONEY AMOUNT REGRET. Some friends told me about courses of a renowned and experienced speaker in real estate field. In the classes, the lecturer uses his own reputation, words, and actions which aim to raise students’ emotion and then SELL. One of my friend who had joined the class before shared with me that the speaker sells very well, he has sold many departments and real estate projects in his classes. She told in classes the teacher sold many disadvantage departments which have low benefit potential and even he can resell for someone who bought them via his channel before and get more commission. For herself, after learning a course of that teacher, she insisted her family members to buy a land in a tourism project without hearing any piece of advice from them. She only understood the trouble when a brother who is an expert in financial field explained to her about cash flow and how to utilize capital. She confided to me that she realized the mistake later and felt lucky that she hadn’t bought the land.

– UNSURE OF RICH BUT FINANCIAL EXHAUSTION. Many students of the classes are owners of shops or super small workshops, or just nurturing business ideas. In those stages, I think, capital is extremely essential. However, by looking for the way to get success, they registered classes which cost dozens of million and even more, then regret it later. I have a friend named Hiệp, joined a free class which set up with the main aim is introducing an enrichment course costing vnđ 70 million for Very Vip price (including some privileges that excluding for other prices). In the excited moment, he registered it and told me that he does not have enough money but will borrow to take part in the class. I also joined this course but with a normal price of vnđ 800 thousand, and in fact that course was also aimed to introduce other advanced training courses. I suppose it will be better to save 70 million for a small startup, especially when the owner has very limited budget.



– Don’t completely believe in courses’ advertisements, ask for information and experience about the courses from senior students.

– If be invited to use, buy extra products or courses in classes, you need to have careful consideration, a trial using, and some of the same,  before making decisions. Speakers always say that only on this special occasion has such a very cheap price or other same words, but don’t worry, that is only the words aimed to push buying action. In addition, they also use techniques to raise emotion to make easy for people taking money out from their wallets such as crazy dance, shout, etcetera, before sale. My experience, we shouldn’t make decisions in the classes even though we really want to do that. We should consider it at home when having more calm, and even ask for advice from family members or knowledgeable people. Remember that, the prices in classes are not cheaper than later, don’t be scared with the words speaker says, they just the way of urging you buy.

– Courses are same as books, you may get much beneficial knowledge but not assure you can apply them well. Thus, do not expect to be rich just only by taking part in the courses (but lose money for them is obvious).



Courses same as books, also contain contents. Their usefulness depends on knowledge, experience, abilities of perception and application of each individual.

If choosing for reading book, you only pay a small amount of book price but read alone. However, you may have to pay a high fee for taking part in a course (normally cost some millions or some dozens of million), but, in return, you study in an environment of active, fun, and friendly which helps you enrich your friend network. The matter of joining the classes or not should depend on your finance, knowledge you already possess, time, other purposes which besides of getting more knowledge, and so on.


I have no aim to comment on any course or lecturer. It just only for sharing my experience and point of view about pro and con for readers’ reference.